Your Family Has a Great Future

The hubs and I went to a marriage conference in the middle of our separation, some time in 2017 (everything was a bit of a blur and we were separated for 18 months).

Things weren’t great then (despite the smiles we put on for the photobooth selfies that I am so grateful now to have, and which I share proudly on my fridge.). In fact, they got worse before they got better… but I hung on to this card that was in the little swag bag we got.⁠

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It's super pretty - I love all things white, gold, and card stock 🤩😄 so it stayed out in view all these years. It’s moved house 4 times. And now…. it’s part of this collage in my office.⁠

I clung to that phrase - a phrase some sweet event prep, marketing person picked out, just doing their job, not *really* aware of how much my spirit needed to it. ⁠

I didn’t know what my future or my family would look like… but in that weekend, pulling that card out of that swag bag, I DECIDED to believe it would be great. I decided to trust that cute beat-up card-stock phrase and then I went about “acting as if…” ⁠

I decided ahead of time and I set my actions and behaviors towards that inevitability. I decided to be the woman who was already living in that great future. I went about preparing myself on how to think, speak, and act like her. I wanted to stop doing the things I knew would keep her from having that great future.⁠

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I failed a lot. But also learned and changed and grew A LOT. Because I was firm in the belief that my family really did have a great future.⁠ Even if it look 180 degrees different than I’d first imagined when I got married.

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I decided to look forward in anticipation and that decision carried me through the times I wanted to give up. ⁠

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And you know what? I look at that thing and am just overwhelmed with gratitude now. 🥲 ⁠

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I had no idea back then - no certainty - that my life and marriage would look like it does now. I couldn’t have proven to you that it would… and yet, I knew the whole time we’d be here. It’s only gotten better, deeper, more meaningful. And it’s only going to get more so. 😊⁠

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Do you have an anchor phrase? Something you picked up somewhere that resonated as truth to you and got you through some tough times? The words we hold onto shape our future. Do you need help finding yours? Let’s talk! Book a clarity call and we can find hope together! Even if you feel like you can’t have belief right now, you can borrow mine until you do. Your family, and YOU, have a GREAT future.

ALL the love,

-Rose